Hobnobbing

I'm supposed to be going to a pink party right now and I'm torn because I hate to miss out on anything outrageous that could happen but I'm so worn out from a day of WASP overload that I think I am going to spend the evening writing, eating cookies and drinking ice water.
Last night I went to Jaime's boyfriend Joe's band's concert.(whew that was a lot of 's) (Victoria is absolutely shocked that I've started going to concerts and I have Cug and her dragging me kicking and screaming to a concert last month to blame for this new music habit) Actually I have her to thank since music is one new richness I never really had in my life. At the concert I met a fellow named John who invited me to his Polo tournament/party up in Petaluma (Lower Napa Valley area) Who in the devil actually plays Polo??? I may be a white anglo saxon protestant to my very last strand of DNA but I am NO WASP and as proof of that, I always thought Polo was a game you played in a pool, I had no idea that it involves horses...
Jaime's friend and our fellow coworker Lindsey was very excited about the polo party and said we had to go because it would be so much fun and that it's an "uber-rich" circle of people that she knows of through a friend of a friend. Suddenly I had a sneaking feeling I was being used by Lindsey. I probably should have trusted my instincts on not going despite powerful persuasion.
The band that came on next was called the Pheromones and they were excellent. The guys are from San Diego and were not wearing any shoes, had cut off shorts, were playing crazy guitar behind their backs and just had a wonderful, lively vibe and looked really happy to be playing. Since I never got into the music thing as a teenager I am having symptoms of late onset, lead-singer teenage crush awe every time I go to a concert.
There were some funny/disturbing lines from the night that I think could be interjected nicely into a story:

"We should totally go and dominate this party in little dresses and bikinis" Lindsey in reference to polo tourney, in true fluff brain hobnob style.
"Your tiny height and husky, deep voice shocks me every time I talk to you." Joe to me.
"Please don't swear. When I first met you last year I imagined you had the book of Latter Day Saints or something in your desk drawer and you were sneak-reading verses to yourself during work." Joe to me.
"You went to UPS?? But doesn't it smell up there??" Some dude.
"Wait you all work together? How can that be? I thought Lindsey was a model, and no offense you but are not tall enough to be a model." Lindsey's friend to me.
"Hey....I just absolutely LOVE your dress." Strange dude to me. I was wearing jeans and a tee-shirt.
"So who do you think would win in a fight? That stuffed antelope or a labrador retriever?" -Joe to Jaime
"Oooooh I wish I had my own taxodermist!" -Jaime, with her little fists waving in the air.
"When I graduated from college you were still in diapers." Joe to me.

Anywhooo this is not a very linear blog post....Lindsey and two of her friends headed up into the ninety eight degree heat of the North Bay.
The house was in the middle of some sprawling, tree dotted meadows past horse and cow and goat pastures. The dude has 100 acres of land on which the polo field is situated. We arrived during the second chukker. I asked John the name of his horse and he said he hadn't decided which of five he was going to ride. I think horses have the most beautiful bodies of any animal. I don't think they find me as sexy as I find them because ever horse I've ridden has tried to kill me on mountaineous ravines or under trees. This reminds me of the time I was reading some women's lit. theory to Victoria about humans being the sexiest beings on earth and she retorted haughtily, "You couldn't pay a horse enough money to have sex with me!" So I kept my distance from those pretty beasts and their debonaire riders.
Spectators and revelers lined the course tail- gate style with their car trunks open. Ohhh my, was that a scene.
The backs of beautiful cars were lined with elaborately patterned blankets and moroccan looking cushions. One enormous white Arabian tent was supported by blue and white striped poles. Inside were cushion-lined benches and bamboo platters filled with grapes, cheeses and crackers. People had strung transparent white drapes between cars to make exotic shaded areas where they could drink champagne, wearing their fedoras and oversized sunglasses.
Lindsey felt incredibly uncomfortable and thought that everyone was acting frigid toward us and snubbing us. I thought I was rather astute at picking up on social cues but I was totally oblivious to any snubbing. I figured we were just strangers; no one knew who we knew or that we weren't part of the rich crowd, but I think Lindsey keenly felt some lack of money or status. I am amazed how many times in my life people remind me of Edith Wharton's Lily Bart. That book is just timeless.
Lindsey huffed about for a bit and proclaimed, "I didn't know it was B.Y.O.B. to the Fiing African safari." After we left Lindsey was talking about how incredibly expensive some of the girl's clothing was. I couldn't understand how she could tell. The other girls said oh yeah ooooh yeah you could tell from the detailing and the fabric...WHAT?? So they spent about half an hour fuming about that. Sigh..California girls....(if I may be so judgmental)
Maybe this is why I usually go to stranger's parties alone. I could have had a wonderful time, poor ruffian that I am. After that drove to Tiberon to sit on a restaurant patio by the water for bloody mary's and sunshine. (water for me, bloody mary's sound bloody awful) Most of San Francisco seemed to have relocated to that porch deck this afternoon. We saw the band that had a played the night before and they recognized me and chatted us up. (maybe because I was in the very front staring like a creepy groupy??)
Lindsey is a shocking human being worthy of writing about because she is the epitome of the twilight zone that is my office. She also leaves me feeling unusually cantankerous and condescended. But she's a character that should go into a story or novel indeed because I am so curious as to whether her brash confidence hides insecurity in her subtle cruelty or whether it is pure, unadulterated self-love that makes her the way she is.
Our name is the only thing Lindsey and I have in common. She's a full foot taller than me, lanky, and lean as a rail. She has short blond curls and bright blue eyes. She's the kind of person that makes me feel like some sort of strange ape or other species because I am so much freakishly shorter and denser than she is. She likes to call me "dahhling" and "sweetheart" in a rather diminutive way and says "You are pocket sized. I could actually just put you in my pocket." She hates physical activity and is a self-proclaimed "lazy ass". She's an ex model and her desk space is filled with beautiful black and white model shots of her, where the light frames her graceful and angular face. Next to her computer on her desk is a long, vintage, standing mirror that faces her. She's smart, funny and eloquent.All of this would seem to add up to someone with the confidence to be nice to everyone.
Instead she talks endlessly about the fancy dates she's been taken on, the incredible luck she's had with men, and the amount of men who have thought she is bulimic, but how much she really eats and how she's just naturally so thin that even if she gets sick for a week she's scary thin and finds it so hard to put the weight back on, how she makes more money than I do even though we have the same position, because she is more appreciated by her bosses (She's also been there two years longer) and how she wowed the executives on the first day even though she was so casual and had just thrown on a pair of manolos blaniks with ratty jeans and a gucci shirt.
She's a Californian but lived in Australia for a year or two, so whenever she meets someone new her American accent slips into an exotic blend of Australian and British accents. When people ask her where she's from she flutters her pretty blue eyes and purses her lips, "I've lived all oveaar. I've had no propeaa home."
The girls just honestly lives in a different universe.
She also loves to mention when she was my age daahhhling, and all these silly young girls her guy friend lives with, "They are like your age. Like 20 years old dahhhling." Even though she's all of 28. She can talk about herself for thirty minutes straight and as soon as I begin to respond her eyes begin to flit away carelessly before she briefly looks at me with an "oh you silly, tiny hominid, what do you know about life?" gaze of pity and moves on to something more exciting than my two cents. Oh mymymy, the people this world is filled with...What do I get in return for being narcissus' pond? A dinner date invitation from the thirty two year old polo player with the five horses. No thanks man, I was just a pawn....
So I took my short, silly, young, inexperienced self home to the beautiful solitude of my humble abode to rest my weary ears and bellicose spirit.